No Yelling Challenge Week 3 ~ Coping Strategies


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Well, we’ve reached the end of Week 3 in the No-Yelling Challenge. If you’ve been following along, you might remember that I started this challenge with two other bloggers in the middle of July and introduced the idea to you in Week 1. Last week, in Week 2,  I shared with you triggers – things that get me going and make me yell. This week, I’m sharing a few strategies that are helping me on my journey: coping strategies for anger management.

This week was pretty good for me. I’m not going to lie to you and tell you that the week was completely yell-free, but it was relatively peaceful around our home. I attribute the peace to a few things –
1. First and foremost, my husband and I are off to Paris T.O.D.A.Y. 🙂 We dropped the kids off with my parents and the two of us are heading out for the week. It ought to be super easy not to yell at my kiddos if they’re not around, right? But in all seriousness, knowing that this trip is on the horizon has been good for the soul. I can only imagine what benefits we will reap from actually unplugging {and being kid-free} for 8 days! Sometimes, it’s really important to take a break from everything, and this will be our first break since having kiddos 9 years ago.

2. I have had a lot of help this week! I have a babysitter who’s been helping me this summer and it’s been really nice. I’ve realized that I simply cannot do it all. It’s a lot of work taking care of 4 kids, cooking from scratch, maintaining a big garden, blogging, AND teaching online classes as well. My babysitter has been a godsend this summer and I am not looking forward to school starting and losing her. She helped me clean the old house when we moved into the barn, and then she helped me clean the barn, organize the barn, take care of kids, and she’s been carting them to swimming lessons and the library. Just having someone else around really helps me keep my cool. I don’t know why it’s easier to behave when I’m being watched, but it is. :/

jai westgard

3. And last, I tried something new and had some healing energy work done! I connected with an amazing woman named Jai a while back. Jai is an Intuitive Counselor and Healing Stone Jeweler and I met with her on Monday for a healing session of Star Work –> a mix of Reiki, energy work, Akashic reading, and use of healing stones. To prepare for our meeting, Jai asked me to think of a physical issue that I wanted help with, and of course, I asked for help with anger management and yelling.

I had no idea what to expect from our meeting because I have never had energy work performed on me before, but I was instantly drawn to Jai. She is down to earth, easy to like, and non-judgmental. It’s a little hard for me to admit that I’d like help with anger management, but not once did I feel judged by her because of said admission.

symbolic stone jewelry

Jai had me pick out a gorgeous pair of handmade earrings to draw in the energy and give me strength. I loved all the earrings she showed me, but I eventually picked the pair that focuses on Patience. Patience sums up what I need right now and I love the agate and hematite stones. So, admittedly, I am the ultimate skeptic and I had no idea what to expect as I’ve said, but Jai had me lie down on a massage table and then she taught me to breathe intentionally in and out through my mouth instead of my nose, and she went through her energy work. The goal was to get me to relax and that took quite a while as I am pretty high strung. After I relaxed, though, I felt the energy moving through my body. My whole body tingled! It was really an amazing experience and I was quite surprised!

After the energy work, Jai and I talked about what the energy said to her. Some of the things she told me were right on. We laughed and I reminisced a little about my childhood. We talked about me speaking more with my heart versus speaking with my head. We talked about cultural differences. We talked about finding time for ourselves! We talked about remembering to take care of ourselves and drinking water! And Jai told me about the Findhorn Foundation, which I am excited to learn more about – a holistic learning center and eco-village in Scotland.

Jai says, “As mothers, we need to remember to fill ourselves up with connection to our Source whatever that may look like. Energy medicine is a way to fill our cups. Like water, we don’t drink one cup and say, ‘OK, I’m good for the next week.’ Nope, we keep drinking it it. Same with energy, we need to remember how to drink it in.” She thinks {and I agree} that my energy source can be found in nature. To connect and fill up, I need to get outside, talk to my garden, sit under a tree, and relax.  I can apply that to anger management by taking myself outside when I need a moment alone and I did that a few times this week.

To summarize my coping strategies in this week’s No-Yelling Challenge

– I recommend that you step out of your comfort zone and try something new – like the energy work Jai performed on me. I think it’s also very helpful to admit that you can’t do everything and get help!! And finally, and I know this isn’t possible for everyone, but get away every now and again. Even if it’s just for a couple of hours – hire a babysitter and connect with your loved ones {the adults…} When all else fails, I’ve been trying humor a lot this week. I start to yell at my kids, and then make a funny face or use a funny voice and we all end up laughing. It’s been a great way to turn the yelling into something more fun. 🙂

Ultimately, though, taking care of myself, and liking myself, and being happy with myself is the only way I will be able to take care of others and have fun in the process!



About Michelle Marine

Michelle Marine is the author of How to Raise Chickens for Meat, a long-time green-living enthusiast, and rural Iowa mom of four. She empowers families to grow and eat seasonal, local foods; to reduce their ecological footprint; and to come together through impactful travel.

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  1. Slightly jealous that you’re off to Paris! Maybe I’ll get there one day 🙂 I hope you have a great time adn come home feeling totally refreshed!

  2. Michelle I had wanted to check in here sooner we have had it crazy busy with lots of house guests. I think having something to look forward to can really help even if it is knowing that Tuesday night once the kids are in bed we are just going to spend some time together without answering the phone or checking facebook, although heading off to Paris is even better!

  3. Reiki is an early form of energy healing in which a participant works as a network for Universal Life Pressure. The Reiki participant opens up himself/herself as a channel for an energy that comes from a greater source to aid recovery or remedy a person’s feeling. This is thought to be useful for the mind, soul, and body or the Indian device called chakra.