Should have gone? or Should have went? ~ 5 Minute Grammar Lesson
on Aug 22, 2011, Updated Nov 09, 2022
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I haven’t written a 5 Minute Grammar post in a long time…and it’s high time for a new one!
I’m not sure if my topic today is an Iowa-ism, or a common problem, but I hear it so often here in Iowa, it grates on me. Even my own dear hubs gets this one wrong, which is confusing to me. I don’t remember him saying this before we moved to Iowa in 2006 – but as often as I hear it now – and as many times as I have “gently” (and not so gently) corrected him – it must be normal to him or he would fix it. ๐
Should have gone or Should have went?
Which is right?
I should have gone to the store.
or
I should have went to store.
If you chose #2, you’re WRONG! If you chose #1, you’re RIGHT!
If you got it wrong, repeat after me: SHOULD HAVE GONE. SHOULD HAVE GONE. SHOULD HAVE GONE. SHOULD HAVE GONE.
If you got it right, pat yourself on the shoulder (or your back if you can reach it…)! ๐
The nitty gritty for this particular grammar rule involves irregular verbs and past participles. If you really care, read this.
Otherwise, please trust me. I teach College Composition. I have a Master’s Degree in English. Never, ever, ever, ever say “I SHOULD HAVE WENT.” Or, for that matter, never put have and went together in any construction. Have and Went never go next to each other in educated English.
And that’s your 5 Minute Grammar Lesson! Enjoy!
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Tell us how you really feel. ๐
I get to pat myself on the back. The “should have went” didn’t look right or sound right. I enjoy your little lessons. It’s been forever since I was in school and grammar was not my strongest subject. I imagine I will need to re-learn anyway.
Was my tone a little harsh? Ooooops.! ๐ It’s a fine line – correcting grammar and not making people mad. I probably fail miserably.
I just heard ‘should have went’ on a tv show. I’m shocked that people have a 50 50 chance of getting this one correct and seem to always get it wrong. It’s a pet peeve and my cousin and I continue to fight for proper grammar with our family. Especially my 9 year old granddaughter. I think we can win:) it’s not just Iowa. I’m from Ontario and it’s rampant. Thanks for trying!!
I hope we can win! I’m not so sure… I think I need to write a new post on then vs than! ๐
Saying or writing “have went” is just vulgar. You should correct the ignorant people who say it.
TJones
I believe comments can be ignorant, not people.
I got it right ๐ I understand how these incorrect phrases can bother a person ๐ In Beeville a lot of people used to say, “get off the car” or “get on the car” instead of in or out of the car…drove me nuts!
I love your grammar lessons. I have a soft spot for English majors.
Yipee! Patting myself on the back. Whew! Thanks goodness, since I homeschool my DD! Tee Hee! ๐ Now, I do have to say I have been known to use incorrect grammar. I was always more of a math/science girl.
What can I say… you know I LOVE all of the grammar lessons. ๐ Keep ’em comin’!
i just had a 15 minute debate with my 22 year old son! SHOULD’VE GONE, SHOULD HAVE GONE! SHEESH!!!!
Who won the debate, Carla? ๐
I knew I was right! Iowa-born and educated even(!), but just saw comments from my son’s former middle school ENGLISH teacher (of all things) here in Tennessee where she wrote, “I should have went…” and I thought, “huh???” Had to google it myself and found your blog. Maybe it is the way they are teaching kids all over the country these days, b/c I sure learned the correct usage and IN Iowa! ๐
Lol! That’s terrible. You are most certainly right. ๐
Would you please explain to me what is wrong with the following sentence?
“What if they hadn’t went ahead with the fake traffic study?”
I was told that the correct form is this:
What if they hadn’t gone ahead with the fake traffic study”?
Doesn’t “hadn’t” (had not) allow for went and/or gone? Can’t it be either of the two in this case?
Thanks in advance!
Hi Philip, actually they both do NOT work and gone is the right choice in your example too. You can’t say “had went” in any context, in the affirmative or negative. Ever. You need the past perfect here, not the simple past. Went means the action of going is finished. You can never use ‘went’ after have, had, has, or is. Gone must be used with those words (or a form of the verb ‘be’).
One of my BIGGEST pet peeves! Grrrrrrr!!!
Using your examples, if you leave out the “should”, it’s obvious you would use gone. Went just doesn’t sound right.
Can you think of a time where it would sound right? It never sounds right to me. I don’t understand how my husband can say this. ๐
Dang. should hv went for more grammar classes =P
Thank you! This infraction is one of my biggest grammar pet peeves. I just read it in news article. I also heard a first grade teacher saying it incorrectly. It was all I could do to not correct her.
Which one is phrased properly:
“yesterday couldn’t have went any better” or “yesterday couldn’t have gone any better.”
Or how can I rephrase the sentence to make it sound better?
Hi Riley,
The second one is phrased correctly: Yesterday couldn’t have gone any better. It doesn’t matter if you add other words better have and gone – the answer is still the same. Could NOT HAVE GONE. ๐ Michelle
I think proper grammar is important. Sometimes in an informal speaking situation it is not always used. Does not bother me. I always think proper manners should always trump proper English. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER NEVER interrupt an adult in the middle of a sentence to correct their English. That is just rude.
I just heard a news reporter say “if you notice is has went down” on her report!!!! OMG! I had to Google to make sure that I am right and she said that wrong. I hear so many younger people saying this and it makes me wonder if they aren’t teaching it correctly in school now. Poor grammar really grates on my nerves but, I just bite my tongue because I think it sounds superior and bitchy to correct people. But it is SO hard not to say anything. I DO correct my husband or sons if they use poor grammar but they rarely do because I drilled it into them over the years.
What is proper use of sang, sung, sing?
@Everett, It was sung so beautifully. Letโs sing it together. She sang like an angel.
OmgโฆI can’t stand the gone/went mixup. My husband also struggles with present and past tenseโฆi.e.. seen/saw. I really try very hard not to correct but at times it just comes out. I am a teacher and perhaps I am aware of it more than others? Yikes!
My husband tries to tell me it is a regional dialect! But he struggles with the entire tense, so I know that’s not it. ๐
But perhaps this is a usage that may become regular over time? Obviously your readers feel strong about it but the English language changes and does not remain the same. Ex double negatives used to be accepted.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I couldn’t remember the explanation of past participles and all being that I’ve been out of school for ages but EVERYONE I work with (professionals, mind you) use the wrong sentencing structure all the time! They will say things like “I should have went”. ARGH! I can’t tell you how much this grates on my nerves especially since these are otherwise intelligent people. It’s so commonplace around here that I catch myself doing it from time to time. I don’t want to talk this way! It’s so frustrating. I don’t want to be the asshole and tell them the correct way to speak but I don’t want to lose my decent grammar skills due to constant exposure to bad grammar!
Thank you, thank you, thank you! It isn’t just Iowa that has this problem. I live in Pennsylvania. I hear this spoken incorrectly all the time. I grew up using past tense and past participal correctly. In the last few years I have worked around people who mix these up. Professionals, even. I was starting to think that maybe I have been wrong the last 30 years and started to doubt myself. I am not good at remembering English terms and probably could no longer diagram a sentence past the basic verb, subject, etc but even I knew this to be a problem. It blows my mind to know so many intelligent people who get this wrong.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! It isn’t just Iowa that has this problem. I live in Pennsylvania. I hear this spoken incorrectly all the time. I grew up using past tense and past participal correctly. In the last few years I have worked around people who mix these up. Professionals, even. I was starting to think that maybe I have been wrong the last 30 years and started to doubt myself. I am not good at remembering English terms and probably could no longer diagram a sentence past the basic verb, subject, etc but even I knew this to be a problem. It blows my mind to know so many intelligent people who get this wrong.
I just found your site and it’s fabulous, witty and helpful! Thank you!
Yeah if you don’t say ‘I should have DID’ you shouldn’t say ‘I should have went’
I stumbled across this post and immediately sent it to my husband and step-daughter. This nightmare is still happening in Milwaukee, WI in 2021. My husband’s whole family says “went” instead of “gone” and so do many of my coworkers. I should have came, I should have did… the list of painful sentences is long. I’m not sure what went wrong in south-side Milwaukee schools but someone should be held accountable!
Much appreciation for your posts! โDue toโ a need for confirmation regarding my grammar, I stumbled upon your page. (Hahaha I can hear my kiddies sighing. Then rolling eyes at my humor) Your helpful tidbits to remember various grammar rules are great!
I can honestly say, itโs the first time I wanted to comment on a sight, and hesitated. My stage fright was the result of having no college. I suppose I didnโt want to be a disappointment. It lasted only a second, but I felt like I was in grade school and my new teacher was going to have a poor first impression.
Anyhooโฆmany thanks for taking the time to do Weekly Five Minute Grammar.
While I should have went is not proper grammar any English speaking person would know what is meant. It is not the end of the world.
Knowing what someone means isn’t the point. Understanding grammar rules and speaking intelligently is the point. Should be pretty simple to get it right.